Serentiy Prayer

"... grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
" -- Reinhold Neibuhr, 1934

Saturday, September 25, 2010

Local women create a 'dream room' for ailing 11-year-old

Keeping a positive outlook is a huge variable when managing a chronic illness successfully.

This "dream room" concept is a tremendous idea for boosting the morale of any patient, but young patients especially!

I will share this idea with other groups. Thanks to Jim Bornac for finding and sharing this news!

: Joseph Carpenter

On Fri, Sep 24, 2010 at 4:42 PM, Jim Bornac wrote:

Local women create a 'dream room' for ailing 11-year-old

Cote said this year's room is being designed for Sarah Valade, an 11-year-old girl with Central Nervous System Vasculitis (CNSV), an inflammation of the the ...

http://www.timminstimes.com/ArticleDisplay.aspx?e=2772512



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Joseph Carpenter
Parent, daughter with CSS (DX March '08)
New Mexico Chapter Leader

Email, Fax, Phone and Postal mail: http://www.nmvasculitis.org/Home/about-cnmvf/contact
Central NM Vasculitis Foundation Chapter - http://www.nmvasculitis.org
Vasculitis Foundation - http://www.vasculitisfoundation.org

Monday, September 6, 2010

Quotations about Hanging in There

I recently encountered a quote by Franklin D. Roosevelt. I think it was probably vintage World War Two.

“When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.”

-- Franklin D. Roosevelt

So I did what I always do, and went online to look it up to make sure it was attributed correctly, etc.

I found this list at QuoteGarden.com of an entire page of “Hang in There” quotes:

http://www.quotegarden.com/hang-in.html

I am going to share some of my personal favorites that just happen to be on that list, and a few that were new to me, but just sort of resonate for me. Some are uplifting, and others are not so much, but they do speak to that part of me that feels the weight of being a caregiver from time to time. By connecting with the strength of others who have endured suffering, I also find courage and renewed strength to carry on.

I hope you find some quotations that can do that for you too.

When you finish reading this, and at any time after today, feel free to reply to THIS message with new quotations. Just trim off the extra bits so the reply contains only the quotation. If eventually we have some repeats, that is okay. But we can build a list that has meaning for this group. I look forward to seeing your new quotations and we should have quite a thread

Alternately, if you find another page full of quotations, you can share that link. Be sure to provide at least a one sentence description of where you found it.

Here are some to get us started.

When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

Fall seven times, stand up eight. ~Japanese Proverb

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves. ~Edmund Hillary

If you’re going through hell, keep going. ~Winston Churchill

A bend in the road is not the end of the road... unless you fail to make the turn. ~Author Unknown

It’s not easy taking my problems one at a time when they refuse to get in line. ~Ashleigh Brilliant

That some good can be derived from every event is a better proposition than that everything happens for the best, which it assuredly does not. ~James K. Feibleman

Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant. ~Horace (Quintus Horatius Flaccus), Satires

God gave burdens, also shoulders. ~Yiddish Proverb

Man performs and engenders so much more than he can or should have to bear. That’s how he finds that he can bear anything. ~William Faulkner

The art of living lies less in eliminating our troubles than in growing with them. ~Bernard M. Baruch

I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind.

Some come from ahead and some come from behind.

But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see.

Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!

~Dr. Seuss

Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around. ~Buddy Buie and J.R. Cobb, “Rock Bottom”

If the wind will not serve, take to the oars. ~Latin Proverb

Never give in... never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force... never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy. ~Winston Churchill

You must be at the end of your rope. I felt a tug. ~Author Unknown

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Healthy Sleep Tips | National Sleep Foundation - Information on Sleep Health and Safety

Healthy Sleep Tips | National Sleep Foundation - Information on Sleep Health and Safety

"The following ten tips can help you achieve sleep and the benefits it provides. These tips are intended for "typical" adults, but not necessarily for children or persons experiencing medical problems.

Finally, if you have trouble falling asleep, maintaining sleep, awaken earlier than you wish, feel unrefreshed after sleep or suffer from excessive sleepiness during the day or when you wish to be alert, you should also consult your physician. Be sure to tell him/her if you have already tried these tips and for how long. To check for possible sleep problems, go to our checklist, "How's Your Sleep?""

Despite the "medical problems" disclaimer, sleep affects us in many ways, and is key to successful stress management. Both mentally and physically, both vasculitis patients and the caregivers who support them will do better if they know about ways to improve their sleep habits.

There are other articles that discuss how to maximize the potential of a power nap, to offset interrupted nighttime sleep patterns. Check it out.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Health Care Reform and Advocacy

FCA: Advocacy Tips for Family Caregivers
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"Families—not institutions—provide the majority of care to chronically ill and disabled loved ones. These families know the enormity of the burden in caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s diseases, stroke, traumatic brain injury, or other long-term conditions. They also know the challenges in locating appropriate advice, services and respite.

Personal experience with community agencies, round-the-clock care, and financial hardships mean families know what the important issues are. This puts family caregivers in a unique position to act as advocates. Caregivers can educate elected officials charged with development of public policy and funding priorities.

This fact sheet offers tips for effective strategies for families."

More info: http://www.caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/content_node.jsp?nodeid=389

Comments: I frequently ask myself, "What can I do to help?" In those times when I know my child is not feeling well, and I have done all that I can do, what then can I do with all the extra nervous energy that builds up from worrying? I work to be strong, and I am good at that. However, there is a part of me that is never satisfied with the limitations on what I can personally do to help my daughter.

So, I became active, started a chapter of the Vasculitis Foundation in New Mexico. That is slow going, but connecting with other patients and families does channel a lot of energy that might have gone into simply bugging Meaghan about her condition... which drives her nuts.

The FCA fact sheet about family advocacy brings to mind other ways to channel those energies into a more constructive form that might actually affect the root problem, which is we need more research to develop better treatments and eventually, a cure.

I personally worry about my daughters ability to get insurance coverage. She has certain practical paths to take, mostly involving working for a firm or institution large enough to preclude "preexisting condition" coverage exemptions. On the whole, I am in favor of reforms to health care. Just not sure yet which specific reforms will help, and which might make things worse. Or if the best reform will get its heart ripped out by political wrangling. It is worrying.

Doctor Sterns, from LA Childrens Hospital spoke to the pediatric session at the 2010 VF Symposium, and included news about a national registry for pediatric patients with chronic illness that was promoted, and will be funded, under the health care reforms commonly referred to as the Obama Health Care Plan. I would like to know what that really means to my daughter.

My focus is on a young woman who is seventeen and will soon transition from being a pediatric patient to an adult patient. For the pediatric side, I am happy to see the American Academy of Pediatrics stepping up to actively engage this health reform movement.
More info: http://www.aap.org/advocacy/washing/mainpage.htm

We need concerted efforts for all of our vasculitis patients. If you know of an organization that has a targeted plan to promote health care changes that will benefit your loved one, then please share that with this group.

I learned second hand, that one doctor, and I am not now sure which one, spoke in the "All About Vasculitis" session about an alarming statistic. He said, "One in ten persons will be affected by an autoimmune condition."

One in Ten. That is a powerful talking point that I think we can use in every conversation about vasculitis to leverage our own rare condition to the public as we seek to increase awareness. We need a laundry list of talking points that can be put into a bulleted list for people to memorize so they can promote action oriented awareness.

So now I want to dig deeper, and see what reform legislation can really do to help promote research funding into rare autoimmune conditions, and of course especially vasculitis. If my writing letters to congressmen can help promote those efforts, then I am all for it.

I would like to make sure any debate on this topic remains civil, and also avoiding the obvious repeat of media pundits criticisms of what is missing from any particular health care reform plan... Those details can be referred to by citing a summary article with a link so all sides can be represented without burdening this group with unhealthy emotion.

Let's try to stick to practical and usable facts on how specific reforms will impact health care and quality of life issues for our chronically ill patients... adults and children alike. If you do not like one plan, then offer up the alternative you think is better. I think we all might like to know the different options, so keep it positive. Don't just cite the media, try to cite the original source if you can get to that. What do you all know about the health care reforms, and what are you doing personally to increase awareness about those issues?

If you find good sources of information about the different health care reform proposals, please share that information with the group as a reply to this discussion thread. We might even start a resource page for this topic on the blog once we collect enough citations.

I realize this article is jumping in with both feet, but we already have a place to talk about what medications to try, and how to deal with Prednisone, etc.

I am hopeful this group can branch out and empower caregivers with more tools for keeping themselves strong, making time for yourself amidst the day to day constant giving, and even providing some simple emotional support when someone is just at the end of their rope. This group is private, so you can let your hair down. Or, as this article suggests, you can also pick up the torch and carry it to help promote work that will lead to actual progress towards improved treatments and maybe even a cure.

So, what do you think about all that?

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Joseph Carpenter
Parent, daughter with CSS (DX March '08)
Albuquerque, New Mexico
Copyright 2010

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Welcome to the Autoimmune Vasculitis Caregivers Group companion blog

What sets this group apart is our connection to a patient with a diagnosis of an autoimmune related form of vasculitis.

Put simply, the fifteen differential diagnoses listed on the Vasculitis Foundation list of vasculitides:
  • Behcet's Disease
  • Buerger’s Disease
  • Central Nervous System
  • Churg Strauss Syndrome
  • Cryoglobulinemia
  • Giant Cell Arteritis
  • Henoch-Schönlein Purpura
  • Hypersensitivity Vasculitis
  • Kawasaki Disease
  • Microscopic Polyangiitis
  • Polyarteritis Nodosa
  • Polymyalgia Rheumatica
  • Rheumatoid Vasculitis
  • Takayasu’s Arteritis
  • Wegener’s Granulomatosis
That list of conditions is not exclusive, and at some point other conditions may join us. But for now that is who is invited to participate here.

The idea is to share ideas and solutions, to provide and gain support, to join together in ways that are not possible when we are spread all over the globe.

Caregivers have unique issues that are often share with the patient, but not always. And we do not always see things the same way as patients will. Just by virtue of the fact that we do not have the condition ourselves, we are set apart and this online community is the place for us to discuss those similarities and differences so that we can grow together, even as we live apart.

It is yet another extension of the primary message of the Vasculitis Foundation, which is this, "You Are Not Alone."

I welcome you to participate actively in the mailing list, and to visit this blog from time to time to read what we hope will be helpful information for caregivers.

Thank you and see you in the list!

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Joseph Carpenter
Parent, daughter with CSS (DX March '08)
New Mexico Chapter Leader

Email, Fax, Phone and Postal mail: http://www.nmvasculitis.org/Home/about-cnmvf/contact
Central NM Vasculitis Foundation Chapter - http://www.nmvasculitis.org
Vasculitis Foundation - http://www.vasculitisfoundation.org